Treatments

‘Wine hath drowned more men than the sea.’ – Thomas Fuller

Problems with alcohol often creep up over time. Sometimes problems with alcohol may happen quickly particularly when used to ‘manage’ painful life events.

As alcohol is widely acceptable within our society as a part of everyday life, it often only becomes a problem to the drinker (and less acceptable to society) when the drinker loses their control over alcohol. Often people don’t realise (or don’t admit to themselves) that there is a problem with alcohol until it’s such a big problem that it may seem too difficult to change. Problems with alcohol take various forms. It may be binge drinking – not knowing when to stop. It may be constant, habitual drinking – not stopping. It may be regular drinking – perhaps only drinking at home, or only at weekends/evenings. Whatever the drinking pattern, if the drinker has first admitted to themselves that they have a problem AND that they WANT to change, they will get, by far, the best benefits from any therapy.

Often there are underlying reasons why somebody has a problem with alcohol, such as trauma, grief or other negative emotions. The techniques used are tailored to suit each individual to help them to take back the control from alcohol and make some of the most important changes that they will ever make. As part of the ‘Control your Drinking’ and ‘Stop Drinking’ packages, we provide guidance and support to each individual to help them make lasting change.

‘Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die’– Buddha

Anger is natural and healthy emotion. People feel anger as a response to something that threatens them. It could be in response to an attack; feelings of being hurt, betrayed, deceived, lied to; feelings of frustration. When anger gets to be the ‘norm’ or becomes out of control, it becomes a problem. When people hold on to anger they hurt themselves. When people lash out with their anger they damage not only yourself but also those around them. It can devastate families, relationships, careers, friendships and just about everything it touches. Those who suffer with anger ‘issues’ may experience a variety of side effects including illnesses and insomnia.

There are a variety of causes for the angry behaviour and usually these are discovered during the sessions. The techniques used in the anger management sessions can help the sufferer to gain more control over their emotions and their behaviour, to become calmer, more rational, to discover new ways of doing things, to make important life changes to help them have a happier, more peaceful life.

‘The anoretic operates under the astounding illusion that she can escape the flesh, and, by association, the realm of emotions.’ – Marya Hornbacher

Anorexia is an emotional disorder which is often debilitating and can be fatal. Sufferers are often in denial about having a problem despite those around them regularly telling them they are too skinny, that they need to eat more. When someone comments or tries to help, the sufferer can often have negative reactions such as anger and frustration. They want to maintain the control. One thing that the sufferer can control is what they eat, or don’t eat. Feelings of control can give the sufferer a sense of comfort and over a period of time as those behaviours become more familiar, they become more ‘ingrained’, increasing the risk of more mental and physical problems.

As the mind struggles with eating the body struggles with functioning well due to the lack of nutrients. Short term problems include fatigue and muscle weakness, constipation, fainting and dizzy spells, bad circulation, often feeling cold, bloating, disruption to menstrual cycle, fine downy hair growing over face and body. More serious problems include failing eyesight, osteoporosis, fertility, heart problems including cardiac arrest.

Sufferers often have mixed emotions and are often reluctant to want to change. They have an ‘inner conflict’ – often wanting to get better but at the same time not wanting to eat, perhaps over exercising and having a terrible fear of gaining weight. Although there are several similar traits with each sufferer, each person is unique and their behaviours and beliefs will have developed through their own unique journey. As such, the sessions aim to understand these beliefs and behaviours and to agree and develop new and healthier ones.

As well as helping to change limiting beliefs, the sessions aim to help develop different strategies and habits and to create new, healthier eating and exercise habits.

If symptoms are noticed it is advisable to seek advice. Early treatment can speed up the recovery time.

Support is also available for families and loved ones often struggle with trying to cope with anorexic sufferers.

‘Anxiety is the dizziness of freedom’ – Søren Kierkegaard

Anxiety is perfectly normal when experiencing stressful circumstances. Anxiety becomes a problem when it is persistent or disproportionately high in relation to the particular situation. High anxiety is one of the most common problems within our society. Despite having better living conditions and having better access to medical help than our ancestors, there are increasing numbers of people of all ages suffering from anxiety and depression. If you or someone that you care about is suffering from anxiety, it is advisable to seek help as soon as possible.

In general, young people’s lives are improving. There are less young smokers and drug takers than in the generations before them. There has been a decrease in teenage pregnancy rates and in underage drinking. Despite these improvements the rate of depression among teenagers has spiralled by a whopping 70 per cent in 25 years. Hospitals have reported that the number of A&E admissions for children and young adults for psychiatric related conditions such as anxiety, depression and eating disorders had almost doubled in 7 years. The mental health issues are also getting more severe, particularly when not treated early.

As our world around us changes, we have to adapt, whatever those changes are. It could be changes in relationships, home life, work or school. It could be expecting too much of ourselves, perhaps pressure from others to achieve. As our world evolves, our challenges change. Advances in technology have given us the freedom to interact with the outside world at any time of day. Social media has often been at the centre of people’s anxiety and insecurities. As our brains are often constantly ‘switched on’ it can lead to over-thinking/over-analysing – which is extremely tiring and often unhelpful!

Treatments

Our sessions work with the individual to understand what they are doing in their minds to feel bad. Together we then work to find, agree and embed different, more helpful ways of thinking and doing things. No medication needed. Sounds too easy? Maybe it is easy – and the results are often completely life-changing!

‘All bad habits start slowly and gradually before you know you have the habit, the habit has you’ – Zig Ziglar

A bad habit is a negative behaviour that is repeated and can become hard to break.  As you do it more often, the more familiar it becomes, the more automatic it becomes.

There is a long list of bad habits which include nail biting, bullying, moaning, skin picking, gossiping, smoking, swearing, playing with your hair and many more.

We work to help you to understand how you ‘do’ your habit and then to find and create a different way of doing things.

‘Bad memories will play the most often, but just because the memory comes up doesn’t mean you have to watch it. Change the channel.’ – Joel Osteen

We all have events in our lives that have impacted us, some negatively.  Many have some events that were so negative that we keep on thinking about them.  When people think about those bad memories again they can feel bad all over again! As if the first time wasn’t bad enough, some people go through it again and again and again, for years.  Instead of enjoying their lives they focus on the bad stuff from the past!  The good news is that this can easily change for the better.  We can help you to move on from bad memories and start to get on with enjoying your life.

‘You gave me a forever within the numbered day, and I’m grateful.’ – John Green

Bereavement is the intense sorrow felt after the death of a close relative or friend. The time needed to process and come to terms with a loss will vary with individuals. It is a natural process and each person will experience their grief differently. For some people, time is enough to allow them to heal sufficiently to get on with their lives. Other people may find that they are unable to get past the period of intense grief, even after several years.

Sometimes people are ‘stuck’ with a bad memory, or negative feelings or thoughts (e.g. guilt).

If the bereaved is unable to get some normality back into their life, even after a long period of time (i.e. over a year), then coaching, NLP and hypnotherapy can help the sufferer to become ‘unstuck’, be able to think differently and to move on.

‘Wine hath drowned more men than the sea.’ – Thomas Fuller

Problems with alcohol often creep up over time. Sometimes problems with alcohol may happen quickly particularly when used to ‘manage’ painful life events.

As alcohol is widely acceptable within our society as a part of everyday life, it often only becomes a problem to the drinker (and less acceptable to society) when the drinker loses their control over alcohol. Often people don’t realise (or don’t admit to themselves) that there is a problem with alcohol until it’s such a big problem that it may seem too difficult to change. Problems with alcohol take various forms. It may be binge drinking – not knowing when to stop. It may be constant, habitual drinking – not stopping. It may be regular drinking – perhaps only drinking at home, or only at weekends/evenings. Whatever the drinking pattern, if the drinker has first admitted to themselves that they have a problem AND that they WANT to change, they will get, by far, the best benefits from any therapy.

Often there are underlying reasons why somebody has a problem with alcohol, such as trauma, grief or other negative emotions. The techniques used are tailored to suit each individual to help them to take back the control from alcohol and make some of the most important changes that they will ever make. As part of the ‘Control your Drinking’ and ‘Stop Drinking’ packages, we provide guidance and support to each individual to help them make lasting change.

‘Stop trying to fill the emptiness inside with food’ – Unknown

Eating disorders come in many forms. Each form has a trigger and a perceived reward.  Binge eating can be triggered by a variety of factors including dieting, emotional eating, being over hungry, habitual eating, boredom, habit, feelings of not being good enough, loneliness and many, many more. The unwanted behaviour is often trying to fulfil another part of life that is unsatisfied.  Binge eaters (and over eaters) often do so as a substitute for that part of their life that is lacking. They try to fill the ‘emptiness inside’ with food.  Once the binge-eating event has stopped, the part of their life that is unfulfilled remains unfulfilled and on top of that they feel worse for overeating often with negative emotions such as guilt.  If the binge eating behaviour becomes a habit it often becomes an automated response and can become harder to break. We can help to recognise the triggers for those unwanted behaviours and to make the desired changes and to lead a healthier life with a normal relationship to food.

Breakups can be tough

Are you grieving over the end of a relationship?  Are you in pain, always thinking about your ex? What are they doing? Who are they with? Do they ever think of me? What if…..

Is your future now unclear without them?

Love is an incredibly powerful force. To open our hearts to love we risk the possibility of pain. Whether a relationship is for one month or 40 years, each one has something to teach us.

Problems come when we get ‘stuck’ in the past and ignore the lessons.

Are you ready to get over it and move on?  Coaching and hypnotherapy can help you to become unstuck an enjoy your life and plan a brighter future.

Contact Jo today to get started.

‘For me, the bulimia was about stuffing my emotions.  So I stopped suppressing my feelings.’ – Cheryl James

As with all eating disorders, a number of different influences can lead to the development of bulimia. Bulimia can be an extremely distressing condition, often taking over the life of the sufferer.  Bulimics often have a mixture of negative emotions relating to the disorder including shame and isolation.

We understand how this disorder can impact self-confidence and create terrible mood swings and depression.

Coaching, hypnotherapy and NLP can help by:

·       changing your relationship with food

·       improving self-confidence and self-esteem

·       overcoming any issues/traumas that have led to the disorder

·       finding different methods of coping with stress

·       motivating you to be healthier

‘Nothing is impossible. The word itself says ‘I’m possible’!’ – Audrey Hepburn

Cancer. It is so scary that the word itself can instil fear.

If you or someone you care about has been diagnosed with cancer it is quite likely that, along with the physical effects of illness and treatment, they will also be experiencing a mixture of strong negative emotions: fear, anger, anxiety, tension and depression to name but a few.

These negative feelings are bad for our health even at the best of times. Negativity can create stress, deplete the brains ‘happiness’ chemicals, and even damage the immune system.

Recovering from cancer can be a tough enough experience and the sufferer can notice a benefit from reducing the negative feelings, manage their thoughts in a more helpful way.

‘Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.’ – Peter T. Mcintyre

The lack of confidence can often restrict people from reaching their true potential. It can stop people in their tracks. It becomes apparent in a variety of ways; from being scared to walk into a room full of strangers, fear of speaking to the opposite sex, some worry that everyone is looking at them and judging them, fear of doing something different. The problem with a lack of confidence is that it can often restrict our ability to really enjoy life.

People with a lack of confidence may get comfortable doing things a certain way and ‘getting by’. They may wish to say something in a meeting but are afraid to speak and are more comfortable just being quiet.

Improving your confidence, changing the way you are and the way you feel will require you to think and do things differently. Coaching can help you to make those changes – for good.

“When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you can like them for who they are” ~ Donald Miller

Couples coaching is for those who are ready to make improvements in their relationships.  When clients come to me they are often stuck in troubled relationship with no idea how to become unstuck, to change.  I help to facilitate those changes.

Coaching is different from counselling.  You will be expected to make changes, to look at things from different perspectives and to try new ways of doing things.

To find out more contact Jo today .

‘Every man has his secret sorrows which the world knows not; and often times we call a man cold when he is only sad.’ – Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

Depression comes in many forms. It is common to feel fed up and miserable from time to time, however sufferers of depression often experience intense and unshakeable sadness.

Emotional symptoms of depression may include:

Persistent feelings of

– sadness

– anxiety

– suicidal thoughts

– fatigue, lethargy and low energy levels

– reduced sex drive

– sleep problems such as insomnia and excessive sleeping and waking too early

– irritability, restlessness

– feelings of worthlessness, helplessness, guilt, pessimism, loneliness and isolation

– lack of interest in work or hobbies

– difficulties with relationships

– lack of motivation

Physical symptoms are often can be harder to link to depression may include:

– back pain

– headaches

– chest pains

– exhaustion and fatigue

– digestion issues

– constipation

– diarrhoea

– nausea

– weight gain or loss

– changes in appetite e.g. loss of appetite, binge eating

– dizziness

Whether the individual is fully aware or unsure of why they are depressed, the treatment for recovery will involve using the best techniques available to suit the client. These are often a combination of coaching, NLP and hypnotherapy.

‘The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.’ – Alice Walker

Drugs addicts usually don’t try a drug for the first time and think to themselves ‘let me try this because I’d like to be a drug addict’. The problem creeps up until you hand over your control to the drug. Users and addicts justify their actions saying things such as ‘at least I don’t drink’ or ‘’I only have one a day’ or ‘at least I don’t take this drug’. Heroin users have been known to justify their addiction saying ‘at least I don’t inject it.’ Yet. The addiction gets worse as the highs become harder to achieve so the quantity/frequency is increased. In some cases the highs are no longer achieved as the addict just uses to try to get out of the low.

The reasons for starting and becoming addicted vary. Whether it started off with recreational use or with ‘self-medicating’, the results are often similar. As addicts lose control it can have devastating affects not only their lives but the lives of their families and loved ones. Sadly many addicts are so hooked that they never want to stop.

Many addicts want to stop but don’t know how, they may think they cannot or they think that it is too hard. This is where hypnotherapy, coaching and NLP can help. When an addict wants to stop, when they are ready and willing to stop and they want treatment, the sessions can be extremely effective.

‘Why worry? If you’ve done the very best you can, worrying won’t make it any better.’ – Walt Disney

Many people feel stressed when faced with sitting exams. Exam nerves just before an exam can be normal and often helpful as the adrenaline rush helps to focus the mind on getting the job done well.

Sometimes people can experience a sense of overwhelm or panic at exams. They may also feel the anxiety long before the exam itself. These intense feelings, particularly when experienced over a longer period can not only be unpleasant but can also affect the ability to focus and concentration often suffers.

The sessions are based on calming the mind, enabling the student to more easily recall information as well as feeling more comfortable about the whole process.

‘Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear.’ – Mark Twain

The definition of fear: an unpleasant emotion caused by the threat of danger, pain or harm.

We are born with only two innate fears: the fear of falling and the fear of loud noises. Every other fear is learned through experience or from others. Mostly those fears are helpful. Many of them keep us alive! When we experience fear our brain reacts with its fight, flight or freeze response.

Some of the fears however can be unhelpful and can put unnecessary limitations on a person’s life. A fear of public speaking can be extremely uncomfortable and limiting. A fear of going to the dentist can stop some sufferers from being able to eat!

A fear is different to a phobia. Fears are the emotional response to a real or perceived imminent threat. Phobias are anxiety disorders involving an excessive or disproportional reaction to the current situation. If someone is afraid of birds they may walk or run away if they see one. If someone has a bird phobia, often a picture of a bird or even just the word bird can be enough to trigger the excessive reactions.

Examples:

A client had a disproportional fear of heights and found it increasingly difficult go up or down stairs, even if his life depended on it.

A lady with a phobia of dogs jumped off of a train, leaving all her possessions behind, because a dog got on. (The dog was with its owner and on a lead). She had often panicked and ran into roads to avoid passing a dog on the pavement. If she had not had treatment she may have stopped going out altogether.

The fear of flying can stop some people from going on lovely holidays. They are limited to destinations which can be reached on land or sea.

Treating the problems early on is advised to avoid the reactions getting to the point where the life of the sufferer becomes restricted.  We learn fears and phobias quickly and we can unlearn them quickly, often in just one session.

Fibromyalgia sufferers are often highly driven people who regularly push themselves to the limit, often more than mind and body can stand. The illness is quite often triggered from one of the following: trauma, serious illness, accident, vaccination or severe stress. Weeks after a reasonable recovery period, sufferers are left feeling fatigue and chronic pain which can continue for years or even for life. Lack of explanation and remedy can be frustrating and disheartening. Many Fibromyalgia sufferers have been helped (not cured) by Jo using the OldPain2Go® method.   Click here to book a session with Jo, or here to find out if this method is right for you.

‘Gambling: The sure way of getting nothing for something.’ – Wilson Mizner

The number of people with gambling addictions has been growing rapidly. An NHS report showed that there may be as many as 593,000 in the UK with a gambling problem. The odds are that the actual number is even higher.

One of the major factors is use of the internet and apps to gamble. Gambling is now more accessible and easier to do, anytime, anywhere and at the touch of a button.

Gambling may start off small but can easily get out of control. Many of Jo’s clients had seen their lives devastated by a gambling addiction. They came to Jo when they had decided that they wanted to change but didn’t know how. Like so many other addicts, problem gamblers have lost control over their lives. They want to regain that control.

By using a combination of techniques, Jo has successfully helped thousands of clients to achieve the positive change that they desire.

‘Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak knits up the o-er wrought heart and bids it break.’ – William Shakespeare, Macbeth

Grief is a natural response to losing someone or something that was important to you. There are many reasons for grief including the death of someone you love (See also Bereavement) , the end of a relationship or the loss of a job.

The sadness and negative emotions experienced when grieving can seem overwhelming at times. This natural process is different for everyone and time will usually heal the griever sufficiently to enable them to get on with their lives.

There are many cases where, even after many years have passed, the griever is unable to get on with their life with much normality. Sometimes there is a good reason for it.

A lady in her 60’s had been suffering terribly with grief for over 5 years following the loss of her husband. They had been married for 40 years. She was unable to move on from her grief. She was ‘stuck’. The husband had not died. He had left her for another woman. In her eyes it was far worse. She said that it would have been easier for her to get over losing him if he had died.

With coaching, hypnotherapy and NLP the sufferer can begin to look at things differently, to overcome emotional obstacles and to find new and better ways of doing things.

Trichotillomania is a condition where the individual has an irresistible urge to pull out their own hair from the scalp, eyebrows, eyelashes, underarms, face or other parts of the body often resulting in visible hair loss.

Some psychologists believe that Trichotillomania is a mental health problem. Theories suggest that a person pull their own hair out to relieve stress or anxiety and that it is similar to obsessive compulsive disorder.

As many trichotillomania sufferers pull their hair automatically and often unconsciously, hypnotherapy and NLP can help people to become more aware of their actions and also to change the ‘habit’.

The Treatment List contains many but by no means all of the areas which can be helped. Feel free to contact me directly if you have a problem that is not listed here.

Call: 07539 611 481

Email: jo@theimprovedyou.com

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